Welcome to the video series that’s all about climbing the ladder of vibration and manifesting the life of your dreams. I’m Stephanie Mulac and today we are going to be talking about the importance of being assertive.
Now, I was thinking about this this morning because a friend of mine made a post on Facebook about a lesson she taught her own daughter, and I thought it was absolutely wonderful and wanted to share it with you. Her daughter had an elaborate thing that she wanted to have done with her hair. She wanted her hair dyed a really vibrant pink, literally a hot pink and by the time they were done at the salon, it sort of came out more like a hot mess. Basically what happened was, it was a light pastel, kind of patchy, just wasn’t that bright vibrance that they were after.
Now, if you’ve ever had long waist-length hair and you’ve gone to a salon to have any treatments done, I’m here to tell you, you’re looking at a couple of hundred dollars or more down the line before you even consider stepping out the front door. So, on top of having a desire for a certain outcome, there was compensation that went on in this situation that really should have been to a degree that, even if you pay $5 for something, you should get what you’re promised but if your paying several hundred dollars, you darn well better get what you’re promised.
So, as my friend told the story, she said that her daughter sort of stood there and went “Yeah, it’s very nice. Thank you very much.” And she was very polite as she’s raised her daughter to be, but then when they got home, she talked to her daughter and her daughter’s like “Well, truthfully, I’m not very happy with this but I really didn’t want to cause a fuss.” And it was more about the little girl respecting adults and it was time for her to learn a little lesson in assertiveness.
And in this particular instance, probably as adults, we can see this very clearly. I go, I pay for a service, the service is not what I expected, therefore, I’m going to speak up and speak my mind. But do you always do that? Or are there times that it’s just sort of the lesser of two evils, that you decide that you’re just gonna kinda keep your mouth shut? And it kind of stirs inside of you that maybe you didn’t get what it was you were promised or an outcome isn’t what was expected, even though maybe money or some type of compensation changed hands?
So even as adults we find ourselves doing this too, oftentimes not rock the boat or sometimes we’re just too exhausted or too frustrated or too spread too thin to wanna even go through the challenge of this. But the importance of being assertive is to really square your shoulders, stand up for what you believe in and what you’re entitled to. And I guarantee you, each and every time, when you take that stance and you approach life like that in a very level headed, logical manner but simply be assertive without being aggressive and put yourself forward of getting what it is you’re entitled to, internally you are going to feel better. It is going to make you feel better about yourself, about your interactions with others and it’s going to keep an energy level out there that is going to be in line with you accomplishing whatever it is you’re seeking to accomplish.
So please, leave me a comment below and let me know some point that you were assertive and how it turned out, or of something that this has brought up in you, that maybe you’re going to rethink and do something about that you otherwise may not have. And if you enjoyed this, please give it a big thumbs up, click the like button below. And certainly, if you know of anybody who can benefit from this message, please feel free to share it with them. And until next time, keep climbing the ladder of vibration.